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It is estimated that 40 million Americans watch pornography regularly and that 35% of all internet downloads are related to pornography (Source).

While some limit pornography to only movies or videos, we would like to suggest that it also includes books, pictures, stories, or other media displaying sexual content used to incite arousal. Porn has become a widespread phenomenon among young and adult populations as it is accessible through all screens.

Although more accepted in today’s culture, pornography has led our society to over-sexualization and gender objectification, often creating addictions and dysfunction in real-life relationships, marriages, and families. The numbers are startling (Source):

• 47% of families report that pornography is a problem in their homes.

• Teenagers who have frequent exposure to sexual content are twice as likely to experience teen pregnancy.

• Infidelity increases by 300% when pornography is used.

• 68% of divorces involve pornography or obsessive interest in sexual content.

• 58% of ‘sex addicts’ suffer financial losses because of their addiction.

What to do to control the negative impact of pornography on families?

Have honest conversations. Talking honestly and objectively about this topic can help families understand how it affects their unit. This conversation should start with the husband and wife and later involve the children in age-appropriate discussions. Many children are exposed to sexual content while not with their parents. Asking questions about their interactions while away will help parents understand what their kids have been exposed to.

Put safety measures in place for children and adults. Software such as Net Nanny, Bark, and FamiSafe can aid in blocking unwanted content on devices or networks. These measures are not to cause shame but merely to help focus on what is noble, right, and pure (Phillippians 4:8).

Seek counseling. If there is already an issue with pornography, seeking counseling as a couple or family may be the first step to healing. There is no shame in seeking help, and counselors (including our staff at Wellspring) hold your privacy and confidentiality in the highest regard. Counseling can help create a safe place to have conversations to restore marriages and heal homes.