How to Practice Self Control

Self-Regulation allows us to monitor difficult thoughts and emotions calmly to respond in a way that is appropriate to ourselves, others, and our environment. Self control, the behavioral management part of self-regulation, not only helps our social interactions, but it is considered a fruit of the spirit from God (Galatians 5:22-23).

How can we exercise self-control?

  • Remove temptations. The best way to exert self-control over something that may tempt us is to remove ourselves from the situation or remove the temptation.

  • Focus on the bigger goal. Ask yourself what the benefits of showing self-control are at this moment? How does this profit your future and goals?

  • Learn how to manage your stress.

  • Forgive yourself. Mistakes happen, try again.

What are some habits that contribute to having better self-control?

  • Regular exercise

  • Eating well

  • Plan for situations that will test your resolve

  • Practice exercising willpower

  • Focus on one goal at a time

  • Build a consistent prayer life

What else do we know about self-control?

Self-control and decision making are linked together. When situations require heavy decision making capacity, the less self control is available. Conversely, after exercising self-control, decision making can become simpler and easier.

As one study suggests, self-control may be a limited resource. In this study, it was found that resisting temptation and self-control diminished throughout the day (Kouchaki & Smith, 2014). Have you found yourself more susceptible to your temper later in the day or more likely to raid the pantry? This is founded in science!

What does the Bible say?

  • “Like a city that is broken into and without walls. So is a person who has no self-control over his spirit.” Proverbs 25:28

  • “For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” 2 Timothy 1:7

Article by:

Gabriella Zelaya, Registered Mental Health Counselor Intern

PRESENTED BY

Alicia Foss

Therapist, Licensed Mental Health Counselor

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    • Alicia has been married since 2001 with 3 boys. Her husband is a pastor and they have been involved in ministry since 2001. Alicia loves running and all New England sports!
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Carmine Vidaña

Therapist, Licensed Mental Health Counselor

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    • Carmine has been married since 1992 with one grown daughter and two delightful grandchildren. Carmine has offered premarital counseling at her local church for over 25 years.
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