Self-Regulation allows us to monitor difficult thoughts and emotions calmly to respond in a way that is appropriate to ourselves, others, and our environment. Self control, the behavioral management part of self-regulation, not only helps our social interactions, but it is considered a fruit of the spirit from God (Galatians 5:22-23).
How can we exercise self-control?
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Remove temptations. The best way to exert self-control over something that may tempt us is to remove ourselves from the situation or remove the temptation.
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Focus on the bigger goal. Ask yourself what the benefits of showing self-control are at this moment? How does this profit your future and goals?
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Learn how to manage your stress.
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Forgive yourself. Mistakes happen, try again.
What are some habits that contribute to having better self-control?
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Regular exercise
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Eating well
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Plan for situations that will test your resolve
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Practice exercising willpower
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Focus on one goal at a time
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Build a consistent prayer life
What else do we know about self-control?
Self-control and decision making are linked together. When situations require heavy decision making capacity, the less self control is available. Conversely, after exercising self-control, decision making can become simpler and easier.
As one study suggests, self-control may be a limited resource. In this study, it was found that resisting temptation and self-control diminished throughout the day (Kouchaki & Smith, 2014). Have you found yourself more susceptible to your temper later in the day or more likely to raid the pantry? This is founded in science!
What does the Bible say?
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“Like a city that is broken into and without walls. So is a person who has no self-control over his spirit.” Proverbs 25:28
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“For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” 2 Timothy 1:7
Article by:
Gabriella Zelaya, Registered Mental Health Counselor Intern
