Think back to your childhood: Did your parents sit you down and have “the talk” or did they skirt around the topic and allow you to find the answers on your own?
Talking about sex with your child can feel intimidating and scary. This week we arm you with some tools to approach these uncomfortable conversations with confidence.
How should a conversation about sex be approached with your kids?
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Start the conversation early. Starting the conversation before children have exposure to information outside the home can be easier and less embarrassing for both parents and kids. Over time you will become more comfortable with these conversations.
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Keep the conversation going. Talking about sex should not be a one time “talk”. Discussions should be on-going as issues and new information surface. These talks should be part of your usual conversations with your children (Deuteronomy 6:7).
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Keep the conversation safe. Talking to parents about sex isn’t easy for kids, so do all that you can to make your children feel safe coming to you when questions arise. Avoid showing shock or judgement on any topics or questions they may want to discuss with you.
How should a conversation about sex NOT be approached with your kids?
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Don’t assume it is too late. You can begin these conversations at any time. No one loves your child as you do. It is never too late to nurture your relationship and become a safe place for them to confide in.
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Don’t remain quiet. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and start conversations.
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Don’t talk over your child. Allow your child to speak and feel heard, that way they will be more likely to receive and listen to what you have to say.
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Don’t try to teach everything in one day. Knowledge and understanding is built overtime. This process will be on-going as your child matures and asks questions.
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